tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post3047997353654199301..comments2023-05-14T06:20:54.641-05:00Comments on Sarah's Daughter: Honor and EmpathySarahsDaughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-13848152721245269892015-06-08T18:50:38.587-05:002015-06-08T18:50:38.587-05:00From email TJ writes:
Hi. I can’t seem to commen...From email TJ writes: <br /><br />Hi. I can’t seem to comment on blogspot. Very strong article. Your comment that you learn empathy from Dad is interesting. And Father’s Day is coming up, hint, hint. lol<br /><br />http://unknownmisandry.blogspot.ca/2013/06/florence-nightingale-her-disappointment.html<br /><br />As I understand Florence, what she describes as receiving sympathy from a man, is from the man a point of honour. He understands and sees her vision of what could be. He sees how it would be a thing of good for people who will never thank him. As a point of honour, the end justifies the means. That is, he gives his life so that in the end the honour of the worthy cause is honourable. Any loss on his part becomes justified, even to the point of his death.SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-32182300802090069342015-06-02T06:11:25.871-05:002015-06-02T06:11:25.871-05:00Sure, and reading Jessica Valenti's writing, y...Sure, and reading Jessica Valenti's writing, you know she wears it ironically. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-70277029634874422702015-06-01T23:51:45.422-05:002015-06-01T23:51:45.422-05:00Just so you know, the quote on the sweatshit is a ...Just so you know, the quote on the sweatshit is a euphemism.<br /><br />http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=male+tearsRichardPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-25553479085211183172015-05-20T06:37:37.465-05:002015-05-20T06:37:37.465-05:00I think we often times will call something empathy...I think we often times will call something empathy when what would more accurately describe it is compassion or perhaps sympathy. <br /><br />What your husband is doing is empathetically seeing the emotional state of your child and taking it a logical step further - this emotional state is going to be a detriment in the future (or is a detriment currently) - he then altruistically disciplines your child to help root out this detrimental behavior.<br /><br />Mothers will often pity a child's emotional state and genuinely not want them to feel it but stop short of instructing in such a way as to <i>help</i> them long term. <br /><br />Mother: "I feel so bad seeing my child upset/crying/angry, I want to hug them/hold them"<br />Father: "I understand why he's doing this/feeling this, he hasn't learned xyz yet"<br /> <br />I find the sheer numbers of women willing to abort their own children a sign of the lack of empathy. This statistic even more damning: <br /><i>Among women who obtained abortions in 2011, 39.9% had no prior live births; <b>46.1% had one or two prior live births, and 13.9% had three or more prior live births (CDC)</b></i><br /><br />The ability for these women to have brought forth life from her womb and then abort a baby afterwards strikes a clear blow to the concept of women naturally possessing empathy. <br /><br />Also, with all of the research that has been done, all of the statistics available, all the truth that is known of the detriment to children when their parents divorce, women continue to blow up marriages at an extraordinary higher rate than men - more evidence of a lack of empathy for her children. <br /><br /><i>I must say, while it makes me flinch a little to read negative generalisations about women</i><br /><br />This is a natural reaction. Unfortunately it is this flinching that has allowed the true nature of women to be lost in our understanding and the lies of feminism to become ingrained in our society. We have been trained that <i>any</i> criticism or even simple differentiation between men and women is offensive and disparaging, ie. misogynistic.<br /><br />I know the reflex reaction to reading something like this. Often times it is an indignant, "I have honor, I have empathy!" or "I know a woman who has honor/empathy." And that certainly can be true. Women can possess these traits. Women can learn to possess these traits. Most often they are learned <i>from a man</i>:<br /><br /><i><a href="http://eclkc.ohs.acf.hhs.gov/hslc/tta-system/family/for-families/Inside%20Head%20Start/Parent%20Involvement/parent_pub_00001_072005.html" title="Link to example website" rel="nofollow">Development of Empathy </a><br /><br />A long-term study started in the 1950s found that the strongest indicator for a child being empathetic later in adulthood was warm father involvement in the early years of the child's life. 19<br /><br />In a 26-year-long study, researchers found that the number one factor in developing empathy in children was father involvement. Fathers spending regular time alone with their children translated into children who became compassionate adults.<br /><br />Kyle Pruett, after reviewing the large body of research on father involvement and child development, concludes "these findings take us beyond a shadow of a doubt" that fathers play an important and irreplaceable role in healthy child development. He adds, "the closer the connection between father and child, the better off they both are now and in the future."21</i> SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-50181776529949351582015-05-20T01:12:03.425-05:002015-05-20T01:12:03.425-05:00Very interesting post!
I must say, while it makes ...Very interesting post!<br />I must say, while it makes me flinch a little to read negative generalisations about women (that we do not naturally embody empathy, honour or courage), it is certainly food for thought.<br />I've always thought of empathy as primarily a female trait. Particularly when it comes to our children. I feel like I am often feeling empathy for my children and sometimes this makes me too soft on them at times. Whereas my husband is more able to look at the future consequences of certain behaviours and discipline them accordingly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com