tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post7114852164661921910..comments2023-05-14T06:20:54.641-05:00Comments on Sarah's Daughter: Reject your inner bitch, princess, but be honest...pleaseSarahsDaughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-92183861842176376222013-02-06T15:43:24.801-06:002013-02-06T15:43:24.801-06:00Anywhere on the autistic spectrum seems to irritat...Anywhere on the autistic spectrum seems to irritate women. The inability to read social cues means womens hints and gender correctness is lost in translation.<br /><br />Makes for some awkward, yet funny moments around too sensitive women.<br /><br />- an observerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-55654181852066886782013-02-05T20:09:40.369-06:002013-02-05T20:09:40.369-06:00no social etiquette or awareness
he might be one ...<i>no social etiquette or awareness</i><br /><br />he might be one of these... and so might his son...<br /><br />http://www.aspergersyndrome.org/Articles/Kids-Called-Nerds--Challenge-and-Hope-For-Children.aspx<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-72784286526319391522013-02-05T19:43:38.901-06:002013-02-05T19:43:38.901-06:00the nice guy in church who they publicly humiliate...<i>the nice guy in church who they publicly humiliate may get his act together</i><br /><br />And, don't forget, the guy you DO want, may observe how you treated that nice guy -- or hear about it later -- and may never try. You may be killing your own chances with the one you really want. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-34446615102220062292013-02-05T19:41:08.372-06:002013-02-05T19:41:08.372-06:00don't think #2 on the examples is a good one a...<i> don't think #2 on the examples is a good one at all. You should know right away whether a guy is courtship material for you or not, I think it's rude to leave him hanging, and then come back with a sissy excuse like "I prayed about it." </i>"<br /><br />Well... the look on her face when I asked her out, was one of shock and revulsion. [FWIW that was NOT the reaction I expected; I had no idea I was so negatively viewed by someone that I went to church with and knew fairly well.] A lesser woman, feeling similar revulsion, might well have nuclear rejected me, and even if she'd politely said no, the expression on her face was almost a nuclear rejection in and of itself. <br /><br />HOWEVER... she was of strong enough faith amd open minded enough, to go pray about it, JUST IN CASE the Lord would have her with someone that she clearly, in the natural realm, could not bear the thought of. Her whole family was like that: strong prayer warrior types. I'm sure she really did pray, it wasn't a sissy escuse. <br /><br />As I said, I didn't expect her revulsion. I don't get why she was so disguzted. I'm not a bad guy, and we'd been in the same church long enough that she should have known that. Yet at some level she was DEEPLY repulsed at the idea of dating me... YET SHE WASN'T MEAN. I honor her for that. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-23082325523328214902013-02-01T07:17:26.425-06:002013-02-01T07:17:26.425-06:00Eastside School,
There is a boy on their swim tea...Eastside School, <br />There is a boy on their swim team who isn't hitting on them or anything yet they'll talk about him (with each other) and how much he annoys them. This is been the only time to date that I've had to intervene and tell them to shut up about it and stop paying attention to him if he doesn't behave the way they think he should, ie. who are you that he must conform to your rules? <br /><br />The tricky part with that is, this boy's father is 10 fold annoying to the other parents. I found myself in conversation with him during their first practice and quickly had to put to use the advice I would later give the girls. I haven't put myself in a position for him to talk at me since (yes "at" this man does not "talk with", he talks "at" - no social etiquette or awareness). <br /><br />Anyway, it is very important to us that the girls compose themselves in a way that edifies our family and doesn't cause others problems.SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-4818331974198622192013-02-01T04:25:58.842-06:002013-02-01T04:25:58.842-06:00Eastside School,
That's me. While I have neve...Eastside School,<br /><br />That's me. While I have never been nuclear rejected, 10 years ago I was a spineless nice guy struggling with my identity as a man and my direction in life. I recognized I wasn't in much of a place for a relationship I really did not spend much time pursuing women in my late teens, early twenties. However, when I started to pursue women with long term interest in mind, I got no where due to my finicky nice guy supplicating behavior. <br /><br />Needless to say I am now in my late twenties and am a completely different person. As a result of my life experiences, my financial stability/career, and so on, I recognize that I am high value and have a lot to offer (debt free, will buy a home in cash at the end of the year, well traveled - 15 countries, masculine hobbies, meaningful friendships, etc). Prior to my red pill experience I struggled with self confidence and adequacy, mostly due to my lack of success with women. I'm finally beginning to realize that I am a high value man, and the woman gets to be with me is incredibly blessed. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-87243704593968604692013-02-01T02:50:58.818-06:002013-02-01T02:50:58.818-06:00Sarah's Daughter, although they won't beli...Sarah's Daughter, although they won't believe you, you would be doing your daughters an incredible favor by explaining that the nice guy in church who they publicly humiliate may get his act together, may have a string of triumphs in life, may in 10 years end up being the one who gets to do the choosing but who will never, ever consider them again. Not that anything like that has ever happened in my life.Eastside Schoolnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-88419389579724810162013-01-31T19:18:27.994-06:002013-01-31T19:18:27.994-06:00My young adult children tell me the most common me...My young adult children tell me the most common method of ending or thwarting an unwanted relationship is to unfriend from fb, twitter etc, and block calls and texts.<br /><br />Avoid the awkward exit interview if possible.Lori K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07187409613759851661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-90540505119103179342013-01-30T14:54:57.023-06:002013-01-30T14:54:57.023-06:00Sd,
Teach your daughters to shun careerism.
The ...Sd,<br /><br />Teach your daughters to shun careerism.<br /><br />The church fails when it teaches its girls to embrace a career. Implicit lesson: do not trust a man, do not submit to his leadership, strive to 'be your best' ( often in that fabulous hr/media career).<br /><br />So many church girls embrace a career, delay serious relationships untl they've finished 'having fun', and become outright hedonists. Though always with forgiveness dispensed at the sunday morning nightclub.<br /><br />Church was not intended to be like this. <br /><br />The attitude: Girl i dated a couple of months once said she could never stick at a job she hated. Had to ask: what if you had no choice? What if your other half was out of work? Quick backpedal: thats different, of course.<br /><br />Of course.<br /><br />Same girl also said she hated the thought of being tied down with a bunch of kids (red flag!!). Careful what you wish for: shes now a childless, middleaged teacher, raising other peoples kids.<br /><br />Why do we vent on this stuff, years afterwards?<br /><br />The feminine imperative has programmed unnatural thinking. I am still angry about the lies, and still see them preached as gospel in the churches.<br /><br />Bitter irony: Only recognising the lies years later, people label ME 'quirky'....<br /><br />- an observer<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-7012339613752033562013-01-30T14:17:00.497-06:002013-01-30T14:17:00.497-06:00Men get to risk rejection. A little graciousness w...Men get to risk rejection. A little graciousness would be appreciated.<br /><br />As one of those gamma men, i had NO idea what the signals meant. Add that to girls never saying what they mean, and the result was a disastrous dating life.<br /><br />Particularly in churches, where you can associate with people on a long term basis, its important to demonstrate a little empathy. A number of women that rejected me are now middleaged, childless and expect understanding for living out their choices in selfmade situation.....<br /><br />- an observer<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-61693267166728706992013-01-30T13:22:06.497-06:002013-01-30T13:22:06.497-06:00As Anon says over at SSM's place, that was a r...As Anon says over at SSM's place, that was a rejection he was actually told. I really like what you've suggested here. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-83447223699125989982013-01-30T11:36:26.409-06:002013-01-30T11:36:26.409-06:00A good reminder to be polite, it is a little weird...A good reminder to be polite, it is a little weird when random strangers get a bit too friendly with me, especially since I married!<br /><br />I don't think #2 on the examples is a good one at all. You should know right away whether a guy is courtship material for you or not, I think it's rude to leave him hanging, and then come back with a sissy excuse like "I prayed about it." You should be praying about your courtship before, during, and after - no need to say "maybe, I have to think about it" just to shoot him down (after how many days of his suspense?). Either say no right away or agree to go get coffee somewhere to talk. If you're not sure about him, he deserves a chance with you IN PERSON as a reward for his showing the courage to ask you out in the first place! Especially since if you aren't sure about it, you don't know him well enough to make an informed decision. The only time I see this working is if you say "I prayed about it, and I don't believe I'm mature enough to be a good wife for anyone yet, so I don't want to start dating anyone right now."Abigailhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08914869257788242903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-40971452318505973882013-01-30T11:35:59.746-06:002013-01-30T11:35:59.746-06:00-I’m not even sure, before the Lord, that I’m supp...<i>-I’m not even sure, before the Lord, that I’m supposed to marry, so I don’t really have any business dating til I sort that out.</i><br /><br />And then he'll say, "I'm happy to wait until you get it sorted out". And then he'll ask you every time he can screw up the nerve.<br /><br />But this is an important message. My brother lost his job because he sent a note to a co-worker asking her to coffee. That makes me extremely angry knowing him, and how much it took for him to put that small invitation out, and then get the thermo-nuclear rejection.Giraffehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05556306156373942923noreply@blogger.com