tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post909750204071177440..comments2023-05-14T06:20:54.641-05:00Comments on Sarah's Daughter: Fat shaming - doing my partSarahsDaughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-5317709029741100042015-08-15T23:48:28.633-05:002015-08-15T23:48:28.633-05:00Good grief, poor blog owner. Please ignore these ...Good grief, poor blog owner. Please ignore these nasty and ugly people bashing you for stating your views. They're only living in denial : ) Good for you that you did something about your weight, unlike them.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10623338469125212699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-24848416115937571142015-04-03T05:31:23.748-05:002015-04-03T05:31:23.748-05:00Sweetie, don't let them get to you and distrac...Sweetie, don't let them get to you and distract you from what is important. You did what many of them couldn't; you had the willpower to do wonders to your health.<br /><br />Keep up the hard work! : )AquariusMoonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060143604513581249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-83837854521658976552014-05-22T19:04:08.482-05:002014-05-22T19:04:08.482-05:00Beyond fat being a turn-off for most of the popula...Beyond fat being a turn-off for most of the population, which it is, one problem I have with all this fatnes, and especially the concept of fat acceptance, is who is supposed to really be paying for all this metabolic syndrome? Very few people who are fat are metabilocally normal. The road we are heading down with all this is unaffordable. Who is supposed to be paying for all of this? Now, with Omama Care, it isn't morally right that we are forced to buy health insurance and subsidize all these fatties on our dime. I contol my weight since I can put it on just like anyone else by avoiding sugar, grains, and I simply eat real meat, cheese, eggs, nuts and plenty of produce. It is work, and some personal responsibility. Myself, I do not socialize with fat women as a woman because I have nothing in common with them as a woman. And, I am expecially fed up with having to share my airline seat with fatties as if being fat gives them the right to squeeze me so far into the side of the plane that my legs dangerously swell up, something that never happens to me otherwise. If education apparently is not working, maybe fat shaming is all we have left in this sociey because being nice via education is not working.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-12321259212114358492014-05-21T21:27:45.300-05:002014-05-21T21:27:45.300-05:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Fat Bastardohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03839915109115122588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-80381975700639061192014-04-30T01:38:05.878-05:002014-04-30T01:38:05.878-05:00Fat people are quite disgusting. The biggest lying...Fat people are quite disgusting. The biggest lying fat trash are the ones in the fat acceptance movement. <br /><br />The nastiest of the nasty are <a href="http://fiercefatties.com/" rel="nofollow">The Fierce Fatties</a> They are a bunch of lying hateful slime. They need a trolling. Be clever!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-83040115539419253182014-04-14T01:23:14.274-05:002014-04-14T01:23:14.274-05:00Marilyn Monroe's Real Size
A lot of jealous ...<a href="http://biggerfatterpolitics.blogspot.com/2014/03/marilyn-monroes-weight-and-measurements.html" rel="nofollow">Marilyn Monroe's Real Size</a> <br /><br />A lot of jealous lying fat girls like to say that Marilyn Monroe was fat. Marilyn's waist was 23" -24" and her hips were 35". She stood 5'5.5" and weighed 115 lbs. Fat Bastardohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03839915109115122588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-58634268405981173462013-07-17T06:32:13.364-05:002013-07-17T06:32:13.364-05:00Now that you can tell all those "inferior&quo...<i>Now that you can tell all those "inferior" & "morally abhorrent" people what to do</i><br /><br />The only place in this post and the comments where these words occur is in your comment, yet you put them in quotes. Projection at its finest. <br /><br /><i>So, tell me, oh great learned & pontificating guru of weight loss / "self improvement", do you propose that I should be publicly shamed & bullied because I am a long time sufferer of Cushings?</i><br /><br />I am not a guru of weight loss nor have I ever claimed as much, right now I am a student. Public shaming should be the least of your worries. Seeking out websites to get upset about puts into question your mental stability, its something I would never advise considering the medical condition you are already suffering. <br /><br /><i>I bet you're just itching to tell me to get to a doctor?</i><br /><br />Or perhaps use your google tab. I've learned a lot about your condition with a few searches here. Keep up on the studies and treatments available. Don't give in to despair. For example, there is a rare question about Celiac disease that I can't answer (a disease that affects 1 in 130 people as opposed to Cushings that affects around 15 in a million). The reason for that is my daughter has the disease and I became a student of it. I read everything I can get my hands on about it - but that's just me. <br /><br /><i>Maybe you & your acolytes should start shaming women with hirsutism next?</i><br /><br />Again, another condition that I would take the time to learn all I can about and not embrace being a victim. I don't believe that is a good choice no matter the condition someone suffers. <br /><br /><i>The people who inflicted the most damage upon me with their misguided attempts at tough love (shaming) were my mother & my sister. 2 little barbie dolls who are already paying the price for their cruelty & indifference.</i><br /><br />As I suspected, you have much more going on than the medical condition you suffer. Things that will affect your health and quite obviously affect how you deal with the world. Unforgiveness, holding grudges, coveting, and vindictiveness will all have negative effects. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-21650520608285815022013-07-13T16:40:20.159-05:002013-07-13T16:40:20.159-05:00SarahsDaughter - what you are talking about is uni...SarahsDaughter - what you are talking about is universal, indiscriminate bullying of an already ostracized group of HUMAN BEINGS (sounds a bit like Hitler, or Paul Pot, don't you think?). You must be very PROUD of yourself (isn't pride another deadly sin, just like gluttony?). Now that you can tell all those "inferior" & "morally abhorrent" people what to do, where would humanity be without you or your ilk? So, tell me, oh great learned & pontificating guru of weight loss / "self improvement", do you propose that I should be publicly shamed & bullied because I am a long time sufferer of Cushings? I bet you're just itching to tell me to get to a doctor? Well, why don't you take a trip down into Africa & see if you can have a word with our doctors here, who seem to think that I am an unpaid test subject for the various combination of drugs that they have experimented on me with over the past 20 years? I am positive that you will be able to shame them into delivering quality health care (which I pay for in full). Maybe you & your acolytes should start shaming women with hirsutism next? The 1 & only benefit of having over productive pituitary & adrenal glands is that I am not just fat, I am very muscular & have exceptional physical strength. I was never bullied by my peers, no one in their right mind would dare to try shame me for my appearance. The people who inflicted the most damage upon me with their misguided attempts at tough love (shaming) were my mother & my sister. 2 little barbie dolls who are already paying the price for their cruelty & indifference. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-87881005297337164732013-04-22T22:38:57.452-05:002013-04-22T22:38:57.452-05:00Hi hon, I respond to this here: http://sarahsdaugh...Hi hon, I respond to this here: http://sarahsdaughterblog.blogspot.com/2013/04/regarding-fat-shaming-post-and-my-dear.htmlSarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-63160444038731329442013-04-22T11:21:36.405-05:002013-04-22T11:21:36.405-05:00I am going to start my reply with a disclaimer of ...I am going to start my reply with a disclaimer of sorts: I am a silent reader of this blog, usually. I am a sensitive person and anyone who thinks this is a weakness is an idiot. Also, when I write, my grammar etc is not perfect. Anyone who wants to claim that this makes me less than intelligent can take a flying leap. :) I'm sad that I have to start this way, but this crowd is pretty quick to attack.<br /><br />I am this person: And people such as these seek out blogs with titles like this one and read voluntarily to get themselves more upset? Look, I claim no responsibility for stupidity like that. <br />I am this person: a woman who has bloated into Hogzilla proportions<br />I am this person: gluttonous sinners. <br /><br />I am also confused by how my friends now view me. I never knew you felt this way about me. Or that you think my husband is holding on for dear life to our marriage because of how I look. While this blog may not have been written about me, it obviously pertains to me.Michelenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-73523414064277043702013-04-15T10:10:47.764-05:002013-04-15T10:10:47.764-05:00http://marriedmansexlife.com/
nk,
You highlight ...http://marriedmansexlife.com/<br /><br />nk, <br />You highlight something that is very common among women - that she told you these feelings after she made changes. <br /><br />It isn't that women aren't aware of being ashamed of their bodies. They know that if they confess it, to anyone, they might be told to implement change. That's why I seek to bust through the lies. Women try to lie to themselves (which creates a depressed state) and they lie or avoid the issue with others. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-37244329119738018482013-04-15T08:15:54.850-05:002013-04-15T08:15:54.850-05:00You wrote
"I do think she is ashamed of her ...You wrote <br />"I do think she is ashamed of her body"<br /><br />That is very well possible. My wife was once rather obese (she fixed that on her own to her eternal credit) and told me about these feelings , much later of course.<br /><br />WRT to the dynamic of your family : You could try to work along the lines shown by Athol Kay ( Married Man sex Life) . It is hard to do but it works.<br /><br />nknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-45722634503437811982013-04-13T08:09:19.415-05:002013-04-13T08:09:19.415-05:00"Of course, maybe it’s fine to advocate for t..."Of course, maybe it’s fine to advocate for the position that it’s fine for men to leave their wives for being unattractive"<br />----------------<br /><br />Unfortunately Eristae, many Christian men in this situation don't "leave their wives for being unattractive." Men like me, for instance.<br /><br />What we do instead is die a little bit inside every day, watching the woman we love become obese, and wishing she would respond to our subtle and 'supportive' (*sigh*) hints that she should try to get back in shape. We go to work and provide for our families and wish that our wife would look after her physical fitness, like so many wives we see out there with other men. We try our best to 'turn off' the impulse of physical attraction to lean females, so we can have harmony in our home. We (some of us) masturbate more than we'd like, because we are trying to substitute in vain for the intimacy that we miss so much, and that we used to enjoy so freely with our wives.<br /><br />My wife sleeps on the floor now. She says it's because the mattress is bothering her back, but it never used to bother her when we were first married. She behaves lovingly and affectionately toward me at all other times, so I don't think she is rejecting me, but I do think she is ashamed of her body, and she is becoming more physically removed from me in this and other ways.<br /><br />To be honest, I fear for the future of our family. I don't know how long we can continue on this course. And even if we do, will it be a fulfilling experience for us and for our children? The sad truth is that desire and intimacy with your spouse is part of the bedrock foundation of a marriage, and it affects all other aspects of your union, much like ripples in a pond.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-50271222753793840492013-04-12T21:34:34.431-05:002013-04-12T21:34:34.431-05:00I think some people (women in this case) can simpl...I think some people (women in this case) can simply not remove themselves from taking a post like this personally. It IS about them and YOU are making them feel BAD! Once their feelings have been hurt, then it is all over and then rational discussion stops and the "love me just the way I am" starts, how DARE you JUDGE!!!!!!11<br /><br />I would ask any woman, if their husband decided one day to quit working because he was tired of working and stayed home and only did the things that he enjoyed doing, would they be attracted to him?<br /><br />If you followed their "fat wife" reasoning, he is STILL lovable, so they should love him and not ask him to go back to work and provide for his family. Even after several years of him making the decision to not provide for his family, having them thrown out of the house, losing their car(s), etc they should still love him for who he is.<br /><br />In reality, it would only take a few days for a wife to stomp her foot and tell her husband to get back out there an earn a living and if he didn't he not only doesn't love her he is worse then an unbeliever.<br /><br />You are taking what is important to a spouse and spitting on it and showing disrespect by not even trying to do what is needed to make yourself attractive.<br /><br />As to whatever commenter here said that men are not always attracted to physically fit women, that must be wife Playboy, Maxim and girlie sites in general are doing so poorly in sales.<br />Never mind the fact that a married Christian man would be legally and financially raped if he left his wife because she was fat... so they stay married. Really what choice do they have?a good ROInoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-46743889233193001352013-04-12T18:26:18.118-05:002013-04-12T18:26:18.118-05:00From the link:
One obvious target would be the lar...From the link:<br /><i>One obvious target would be the large number of people who are unaware that they are overweight. They need, to use an old phrase, a shock of recognition. Only a carefully calibrated effort of public social pressure is likely to awaken them to the reality of their condition</i><br /><br />I don't have a clue how you are interpreting this differently than I am. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-44457195117434054242013-04-12T16:49:19.441-05:002013-04-12T16:49:19.441-05:00I love it when comments are longer than the OP. Yo...I love it when comments are longer than the OP. You are free to start your own blog, dear. Then you can advocate everything you'd like. <br /><br />Men are visual. They are also very attentive to what makes their wives upset. There are many married wives who have no idea how physically repulsive they have become to their husbands. And how having neglected their appearance is <i>felt</i> as disrespect (obviously health issues are different - though I know women with severe health issues who still maintain their physical appearance). Our culture at large has embraced this notion that men should love their wives for "who they are" and it's used as an excuse to cover gluttony and laziness. However, no matter what society <i>says</i> should be, it will not change what men find visually appealing. <br /><br />It is my intent to wake women up to what respecting their husbands actually means to him. <br /><br />When a woman chooses to continue gluttonous and lazy behavior, there's usually something very ugly on the inside. Thus, loving her for "who she is" becomes quite challenging. They usually become just as hideous on the inside. Whereas, it is proven that exercise and healthy eating promote health and well being. You'd have to be an idiot to deny this. <br /><br />Here's a good way to tell what you're husband's opinion is, ask him which scenario he feels respected <br /><br />a) when you choose healthy food and exercise, style your hair the way he likes, and wear the clothes he likes seeing you in<br /><br />b) when you eat whatever is quick, refuse to exercise, style your hair the way you want paying no attention to what turns his eye, and wear sweatpants and baggy shirts all the time. <br /><br />If you don't care about respecting him, you are rebelling to God's commands for marriage. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-33628058854282598222013-04-12T16:45:23.791-05:002013-04-12T16:45:23.791-05:00And I forgot to say that I feel the need that you ...And I forgot to say that I feel the need that you need to look no farther than the article you posted here: http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/hast.114/full goes against what Roissy says.<br /><br />From the article (Salient point in italics): <br />"Why is obesity said to be different from smoking? Three reasons are common: it is wrong to stigmatize people because of their health conditions; <i>wrong to think it will work well, or at all, with obesity; and counterproductive with the obese because of evidence that it worsens rather than improves their condition."</i><br />...<br /><i>Stigmatization, we have been told, is counterproductive.</i><br /><br />The article lists a number of possible ways to reduce obesity, but none of them even come close to Roissy's "Lessons."Eristaenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-70861263804556163162013-04-12T16:28:39.960-05:002013-04-12T16:28:39.960-05:00And people such as these seek out blogs with title...<i>And people such as these seek out blogs with titles like this one and read voluntarily to get themselves more upset? Look, I claim no responsibility for stupidity like that. </i><br />So, you post an article that advocates shaming fat people on a universal scale, and it's my fault for reading it? If you didn't want people to read it, then why did you write it? <br /><br />Furthermore, I didn't actually know what your article was about before I read it. Maybe it was talking about doing your part <b>against</b> fat shaming. I discovered what your article was about <b>by reading it</b>.<br /><br />However, 1) I am not upset. 2) You are not advocating for voluntary, sought out shaming. If you were, I wouldn’t care. It’s your body, you can do whatever you want with it. Not my business. Unfortunately, article you posted, the one you agree with and are grateful for, is advocating for societal shaming. That’s shaming that will be inflicted on fat people without their consent no matter where they go. That’s what it means to do something on a societal level.<br /><br /><i>So? They helped me. Yes, I might be quite rare. Chances are good those who frequent my blog are as well.</i><br />The article is not advocating selectively shaming people, it's advocating shaming fat people at a <b>societal level</b>. If you are in line with that article, whether or not you are an exception makes a big difference. Advocating universal social policies that is based on something that could be generally harmful and quite rarely helpful is a very bad idea.<br /><br /><i>Good for you, might I suggest shaving your head as well. </i><br />Aaand you've missed my point. My point is that I <b>don't</b> have to choose between avoiding all men (or even most men) and being overweight. Men, despite what this article indicated, are not widely so shallow that they leave their partners when their partners stop being attractive. This is why most of the women that I know who are married are not “slim babes.” <br /><br />Of course, maybe it’s fine to advocate for the position that it’s fine for men to leave their wives for being unattractive. Maybe my view is losing and at least part of the reason divorce has risen so much in our culture is because we've indicated that it's okay for a man to leave a woman because she's unattractive. After all, under such a model, it makes perfect sense for a man to leave his wife because she's old. She's fat? Unattractive, leave her. She got breast cancer and had a mastectomy (and lost all her hair!)? Unattractive, leave her. She's gotten all wrinkly? Unattractive, leave her. I reject such a model, but I suppose not all people do.<br /><br />In all seriousness, why would you even say stuff like this “shaving your head” comment”? There are women who actually lose their hair against their will. We should be working towards a society that views these women as lovable for their own sakes, not women who can never find love, must get ineffective medical treatments done in an effect to change it, or wear wigs all the time. <br /><br />As another note, I don't see anything in that article or any of the articles it links to that provide any kind of actual evidence that men in general prefer long hair. I see a few men saying that men generally prefer long hair, but no actual data. If we are even going to indicate that it's somehow moral to feed into the idea that women are responsible for men not wanting them if their physical appearance doesn't measure up (and I am not down with that at all), then we should at least do so with some kind of actual evidence. This, of course, also applies to the "fat is ugly" assertion. How fat? Ugly to whom? Across what cultures? During what time periods? If we don't have the answers to these, we can't say if a preference for a "slim babe" is based on cultural encouragement of this or an actual inborn tendency. If it's based on cultural encouragement, then this isn't really about how women look; it’s about what we say is and is not acceptable in how a woman looks.Eristaenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-50014853544631082132013-04-12T12:22:08.088-05:002013-04-12T12:22:08.088-05:00You take a person who is an emotional eater and th...<i>You take a person who is an emotional eater and then set off all kinds of negative emotions in them, you're not going to help them lose the weight</i><br /><br />And people such as these seek out blogs with titles like this one and read voluntarily to get themselves more upset? Look, I claim no responsibility for stupidity like that. <br /><br /><i>Essays like the one you are so glad for don't help on any kind of a large scale</i><br /><br />So? They helped me. Yes, I might be quite rare. Chances are good those who frequent my blog are as well. <br /><br /><i>If I thought that I had to be fat to avoid such men, I'd purposely become fat, or avoid all men. I will not tolerate that kind of absurdity.</i><br /><br />Good for you, might I suggest <a href="http://alphagameplan.blogspot.com/2013/04/alpha-mail-hamsters-and-hair-length.html" title="Link to example website" rel="nofollow">shaving your head</a> as well. <br /><br />SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-73511705355625717682013-04-12T10:29:18.830-05:002013-04-12T10:29:18.830-05:00*sigh*
I have been overweight before. I have been...*sigh*<br /><br />I have been overweight before. I have been obese before. I am currently neither. Was it fat shaming that lifted away the pounds?<br /><br />No. If anything, fat shaming made my weight increase because it made me unhappy and I want to eat more when I'm unhappy. You take a person who is an emotional eater and then set off all kinds of negative emotions in them, you're not going to help them lose the weight. I didn't want it, but I seemed unable to shake it. I'd try so hard, restricting my eating fiercely, only to fall short for maybe 15 minutes and undo all the world I'd just done.<br /><br />What helped me lose the weight? Trying a wide variety of tactics in losing weight, one of which finally worked. The truly funny thing is that the tactic which actually worked had nothing to do with wanting to lose weight and everything to do with wanting to stop eating emotionally and binge eating. I wanted to change the way I ate, not what the scale said, and I lost weight.<br /><br />Essays like the one you are so glad for don't help on any kind of a large scale. If they did, we wouldn't have the obesity epidemic because nothing that he's said is new or unique. Fat women get told this overtly and covertly all the freaking time.<br /><br />Also, any man who is going to leave me if I'm fat is a man I want to lose as soon as possible. Sooner or later I'm going to stop being "attractive," even if the ultimate cause is nothing more than aging. I'd rather not wait several decades before realizing that he's not going to love me if I'm not a "slender babe." If I thought that I had to be fat to avoid such men, I'd purposely become fat, or avoid all men. I will not tolerate that kind of absurdity.Eristaenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-55351038855517974962013-04-07T14:27:25.796-05:002013-04-07T14:27:25.796-05:00Please explain Roissy's motives. Then explain ...Please explain Roissy's motives. Then explain my motives. Your psychic abilities should be enlightening. No further comments from you will be permitted until you have thoroughly explained these two things. So, charge up your crystal ball and proceed. Either that or retract what you've said. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-63289869485300981102013-04-07T13:44:16.664-05:002013-04-07T13:44:16.664-05:00I'm not offended and I didn't read your bl...I'm not offended and I didn't read your blog with any personal intent of attack upon myself. But, just because you didn't name names doesn't change the ugly motives of shame.Jawanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14595123197698603632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-75859434872328602382013-04-06T23:36:11.382-05:002013-04-06T23:36:11.382-05:00My post does not address anyone specifically. Ther...My post does not address anyone specifically. Therefore, when a woman reads it, she can assess for herself if my words apply to her or not. It is ludicrous for a woman to expect to read blogs such as mine, voluntarily and have it offend her delicate sensibilities. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-34515305957227167982013-04-06T21:56:04.605-05:002013-04-06T21:56:04.605-05:00Extending grace to yourself is certainly something...Extending grace to yourself is certainly something that you have taken great responsibility for and that is wonderful that you feel more value to life than you did before when you were larger. However, shaming anyone in order to hope for change is a disgrace. Jawanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14595123197698603632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-55812356870446921572013-04-06T03:40:49.982-05:002013-04-06T03:40:49.982-05:00Grace to whom? My commentary in the post is a pers...Grace to whom? My commentary in the post is a personal testimony. Your comment doesn't make sense. Pride in what? Selfishness? <br /><br />I don't have an overreaction to a blog, I voluntarily read, talking about how disgusting fat is. How is that prideful or selfish? <br />Fat is disgusting. Look at it. Look at cellulite. It's gross. No matter how many times I look at my own fat in the mirror, I have the same reaction to it - I'd like it to not be there. Why is being honest about that such an issue? There are a lot of things in this world that are gross to look at. I don't have an emotional connection to it. It just is. The color red is red - all the time. My eyes are a beautiful blue - every time I look in the mirror. When I look around my home and see dust or dirt, I clean it. No emotional involvement. It just is. My fat accumulation is from excess eating and past laziness. Not an emotional issue. It just is. My lab results showed high cholesterol. I'm not emotional about it, but I am personally responsible for it. And, because it is my own personal responsibility, I can change it. I am healthier now, I feel good and find my body more pleasant to look at having done so. I have taken responsibility for over eating and my laziness and changed it. And, I believe the women who read my blog are capable of doing the same. If they are not, I am not the problem. <br /><br />The woman who linked my blog is far more culpable for any bad feelings women have reading here if they are not mentally capable of discerning what will offend them or not. She drew attention to it, playing on women's weaknesses to seek drama and get upset. Certainly you all have the agency to turn the channel on the T.V. when something is on you don't want to watch, don't you? Quit acting like sorry pathetic victims. If you don't like what you're reading here...don't read here. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.com