tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post278796743872055293..comments2023-05-14T06:20:54.641-05:00Comments on Sarah's Daughter: How he got the girlSarahsDaughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-88027415594891748892013-01-07T01:00:40.175-06:002013-01-07T01:00:40.175-06:00I couldn't agree more David. Anon, keep in min...I couldn't agree more David. Anon, keep in mind the church doesn't necessarily mean the traditional denominations that we grew up with. The church includes this conversation right here.<br /><br />On a separate note, as it relates to my being alpha, how I got the girl was 20 years ago. Alpha, back then, meant you were a frat boy. I plan on putting together my mentality at the time in a future post. I still am not sure I understand what my mentality was. I know I hadn't swallowed the red pill of understanding feminism. However, I was quite observant about experimental results. My goal was marriage. I will get into it in the future.redlegbenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06695513683497743566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-88701498331033911332013-01-07T00:02:55.059-06:002013-01-07T00:02:55.059-06:00Anonymous, the church may have had (and may still ...Anonymous, the church may have had (and may still have) it wrong, but that doesn't mean God did, or that God doesn't matter or have any involvement in your life. Don't compound the mistake of having the church as your guide by substituting yourself as your guide. Make Him and His Word your authority -- not the church and not yourself. Whether you're aware of it or not, and whether you acknowledge it or not, God remains sovereign over every aspect of your life, including of course your relationships. Your choice is to cooperate with His program or to fight it. Either way, it's still going to be His program.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00330748101823931587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-86322191644668109972013-01-06T21:59:00.335-06:002013-01-06T21:59:00.335-06:00Perhaps the similarities to m3s post are uncanny. ...Perhaps the similarities to m3s post are uncanny. The main difference is that I was voluntarily celebate. However I experienced and still experience the same emotions/stupid advice from people/etc. <br /><br />I'm livid at the lost investment. How could I have been so foolish? How could the church be so wrong?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-56004036637076785522013-01-06T21:50:06.824-06:002013-01-06T21:50:06.824-06:00I'm in my late twenties, and swallowed the &qu...I'm in my late twenties, and swallowed the "red pill" about a year ago. Posts like this frustrate the hell out of me, because I've spent the last ten years of my life as an overly zealous evangelical Christian. And of course part of my indoctrination was that I was supposed to be a supplicating nice guy who was over involved with ministry. You know because the church lacks men, and women want men who are involved in church...<br /><br />Of course I wasn't finding much success with the women I chose to pursue due to my lack of masculinity. <br /><br />And so here I am in my late twenties absolutely pissed that I was mislead by the church who claims primacy in all things, yet is completely and utterly wrong. I've spent ten years pursuing a failed mating strategy that was "Godly", only to realize it is bullshit. And the wasted investment is ever on my mind. Robbed of my twenties as a time to develop my own masculine identity, my physical/emotional/mental strength, my career, my interests, my relationships. Wasted spending 10-15 hours a week in "ministry".<br /><br />Of course it's my own fault, of course I have baggage and issues I needed to deal with. Yet at the same time the church has no issue telling young men how to live their lives, and of course the church has no issue with making unreasonable demands. Or telling young men how much God is pleased with them for doing the right thing. The church is destroying the lives young men. It takes those without a strong sense of masculinity and ensures that they never develop one. In fact it only magnifies/develops "nice guy" behavior where it already exists/did not exist before.<br /><br />When I swallowed the red pill regarding relationships, I also swallowed another regarding faith. I had come to the realization that my needs matter, and the church doesn't give a shit about them. That the agenda matters more than the emotional/psychological/physical well being of the people involved. And that God doesn't meet needs, either we seek them out pragmatically, or we dick around in a state of spiritual passivity hoping and praying that God does something that He will never do.<br /><br />So at the end of the day I certainly have hope, because I have the tools I need to grow/develop/ and eventually have a healthy relationship. However I don't know if I'll ever trust a church ever again, or ever believe that God matters/has any involvement in my life. As far as I can tell, whatever happens is up to me - if I want a successful relationship I better be as red pill as I can be. And so on.<br /><br />Why do I write all this? Well to vent of course. But to simply point out that your husband was alpha as hell, and he won you over by being an aloof asshole. No church will ever admit it though, or really teach young men what they need to be taught.<br /><br />Thanks for letting me rant, and thanks for sharing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com