tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post4784416836244487691..comments2023-05-14T06:20:54.641-05:00Comments on Sarah's Daughter: It's all about meeeeee....SarahsDaughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-84363298006868769572012-12-20T15:49:41.486-06:002012-12-20T15:49:41.486-06:00"If you can recall, what was it that caused y..."If you can recall, what was it that caused you to recognize it within your own self?"<br /><br />It was in my 20s, I noticed quite a few of the guys in my social circle were constantly making conversations all about themselves, and two things struck me -<br /><br />- "These guys sound like high school girls." It was pretty off-putting to hear men in their 20s (and sometimes older) chattering like the girls of 90120 or whatever.<br /><br />and<br /><br />- "Do *I* sound like that???" My own form of solipsism, I guess, but at the time it was in the service of self-improvement. Meaning, whenever someone acted annoying, I looked at myself and tried to see if I did the same things without knowing it, and if so, put a stop to it.<br /><br />What's funny is that I was never really an "all about me" person until my late teens or early 20s. Somehow I absorbed the trait of redirecting conversations to be about me by unconsciously picking it up from others.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-43081687941495531932012-12-19T11:59:30.709-06:002012-12-19T11:59:30.709-06:00Thank you for the link!
Thank you for the link! <br /><br /> Stingrayhttp://www.verusconditio.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-50513861071355725382012-12-19T11:51:14.814-06:002012-12-19T11:51:14.814-06:00When introducing the concept of solipsism here, I ...When introducing the concept of solipsism here, I was aware that many of the women reading will not have even heard of it. <br /><br />It was requested of me when I started this blog to keep things in the simplest terms possible. Being that I'm not a philosophical powerhouse, I'm quite comfortable with that. <br /><br />I don't object to what you have stated here nor do I find solipsism to be a solely negative trait, like you said the expression of it is influenced by the discipline of the holder. <br /><br />When learning of solipsism, it is easiest to recognize in its negative application. <br /><br />Within our relationships, the expression of unrestrained solipsism is a communication barrier. It can negatively affect our relationships. "I can't stand talking to her, no matter what I say she always has to talk about herself." <br /><br />My objective is to help marriage relationships. Listening to our husbands and restraining our (negative) solipsistic tendencies can go a long way in improving our communication. And like I pointed out in the OP, it can be used for good. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-54074979393644127722012-12-19T08:05:04.237-06:002012-12-19T08:05:04.237-06:00With all due respect, there is a third form of so ...With all due respect, there is a third form of so called "solipsism". That an outside reality exists, but it can only be seen through your own lens. I think it is a greatly exciting version, and there is nothing negative about it. <br /><br />An example. Say you are playing a musical piece. You could take technique tips and manner of playing from someone else and the piece will turn out perfect. But as you play along, you will make the piece "yours", you will play it according to your own nature, and sometimes quite differently from what someone else considers correct. You will have finally achieved creativity. Now, are you solipsistic, perhaps you should be rational and play as someone else said the piece should be played...<br /><br />The modern world tries to tell you that meaning lies outside of you, that there is a commonly accepted version of reality out there and your hunches and feelings don't matter, since they sometimes veer away from the accepted version. News flash: they matter. And also, you can trust your own feelings, your own center- but after a certain amount of practice and discipline. <br /><br />The reason it is so repulsive when women react from their inner being is that their inner being is clogged, undisciplined, obnoxious. Once disciplined, an inner hunch will be matched to reality and be productive. <br /><br />And now for a manly version, Virgil's warning to Dante when he leaves him: <br /><br />"Now is your will upright, wholesome and free<br />And not to heed its pleasure would be wrong. <br />I crown and miter you lord of yourself."<br /><br />Would you mind solipsism if your will was indeed upright, wholesome and free? <br /><br />And more manly version- martial arts. You don't do martial arts by an outside standard. You use your inner nature- all the while trying to improve it. If you work by an outside standard, you get beaten up. <br /><br />So, women are not wrong to put themselves in the middle. It's just they are not quite good at being nice, pure selves and believe their sorry, clogged state can produce a good judgment of reality. <br /><br />Or, me being female and inherently solipsistic, one may enlighten me as to more valid versions of reality. Hipparchiahttp://blogelectrons.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-31521426522186869892012-12-18T19:36:12.461-06:002012-12-18T19:36:12.461-06:00If you can recall, what was it that caused you to ...If you can recall, what was it that caused you to recognize it within your own self? <br /><br />I ask because it was never something I recognized on my own, though once I learned of solipsism (it was a brand new word/concept to me fewer than three years ago) I saw it everywhere as if for the first time. And then, with introspection, I recognized it within my thought patterns.<br />SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-77819225783791813882012-12-18T16:11:43.929-06:002012-12-18T16:11:43.929-06:00A lot of guys do this too. I noticed a bit of it i...A lot of guys do this too. I noticed a bit of it in myself years ago and started working on it. The men's version used to be regarding more trivial things, but now it seems to be worse, and more common, in men under about 35 or 40. Right about the age when feminism started taking off.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-10355429709191120122012-12-18T08:32:28.583-06:002012-12-18T08:32:28.583-06:00This is intresting. It has never crossed my mind. ...This is intresting. It has never crossed my mind. Makes women sound very shallow, constantly. Yikes, and the scary part is most women don't even know they are doing it. I don't necessarly think it is a bad thing all the time, but now that I am aware of this consept I will make an effort to "curb my natural solipsistic tendencies" when it is inappropriate to use. mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09137623478118681867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-21129022376657180802012-12-18T08:01:21.810-06:002012-12-18T08:01:21.810-06:00Is it solipsistic in here, or is it just me?Is it solipsistic in here, or is it just me?VryeDenkernoreply@blogger.com