tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post5924534224793115292..comments2023-05-14T06:20:54.641-05:00Comments on Sarah's Daughter: Smile...and really, just shut upSarahsDaughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-38193250821815081052014-08-13T16:44:48.400-05:002014-08-13T16:44:48.400-05:00I have found that in every case where I have acted...I have found that in every case where I have acted as I should, instead of acting how I feel, that the feelings follow the actions. When I act as a loving woman would act, I begin to FEEL love. So yes. Shut up. Do what is right. Don't be a slave to your feelings, ladies. subject by designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10587758866636087935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-89573287976772557312013-02-19T09:42:22.263-06:002013-02-19T09:42:22.263-06:00Maybe I will leave the blog up on the computer &qu...Maybe I will leave the blog up on the computer "accidentally" and then explain to her why she doesn't control the intellectual content of my knowledge feed. Then explain to her if she feels the blogs to be judgemental it is because they are very applicable. stg58/Animal Mothernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-38571378286282253402013-02-19T08:07:07.287-06:002013-02-19T08:07:07.287-06:00I think my husband would die of laughter if I trie...I think my husband would die of laughter if I tried telling him he couldn't read a particular site O.oAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01116673919482572836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-85703246342848106242013-02-17T15:13:13.405-06:002013-02-17T15:13:13.405-06:00Spent the entire weekend painting the garage and l...Spent the entire weekend painting the garage and laundry. Walls and ceiling had been relined. Two undercoats and still a top coat to go. Both nights, i retired wearily to the desktop to work my second job, a part time one.<br /><br />Some wives would have bitched that its not finished yet.<br /><br />Mine repeatedly said how good its looking, and thanked me for using the weekend to do it.<br /><br />Definitely a good beach:<br /> http://dalrock.wordpress.com/2013/01/31/a-tale-of-two-beaches/<br /><br />- an observer<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-25085949999864812302013-02-17T07:20:37.799-06:002013-02-17T07:20:37.799-06:00I obviously haven't listened to her, RLB. I do...I obviously haven't listened to her, RLB. I don't take orders from her. I read what I want to. I point out her inconsistencies to her on a daily basis. If she wants to leave, oh well. Someone hotter and younger will take her place.stg58/Animal Mothernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-45470483032334346212013-02-17T02:42:36.234-06:002013-02-17T02:42:36.234-06:00It might be time to grow a pair. I won't lie. ...It might be time to grow a pair. I won't lie. It won't be easy. It is simple. You have to actually confront what you value in life and who you will listen to. Pray. We will pray for you and your family as well.redlegbenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06695513683497743566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-59869446867651664792013-02-16T20:28:58.866-06:002013-02-16T20:28:58.866-06:00Well, ya lost another one. My wife was initially t...Well, ya lost another one. My wife was initially totally stalking your blog, now I have been informed that I am "not allowed" to read your blog and SSM because you and SSM are too judgemental. <br /><br />I am sure you will miss her.stg58/Animal Mothernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-443012688072578252013-02-16T14:59:33.013-06:002013-02-16T14:59:33.013-06:00Only one thing I would add:
Ladies, you will scre...Only one thing I would add:<br /><br />Ladies, you will screw up. Life is not about perfection, but getting close to zero defects makes life smoother.<br /><br />(Says me who slept through church).<br /><br />Your husband loves you. He is not your drill sgt: do not fear him. Most of the time he wants the problem fixed, you happy, and the home peaceful.<br /><br />So do not belt yourself up if you make a mistake. Confess it to God and to your husband -- confessing to your husband should be a barrier about making big mistakes.<br /><br />CHrishttp://blog.pukeko.net.nznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-24095988869363769312013-02-16T13:45:11.254-06:002013-02-16T13:45:11.254-06:00Bah, I read too much and lost the quote, but some...Bah, I read too much and lost the quote, but somewhere someone asked something along the lines of would you rather be right or happy? I will NEVER forget the day that it finally dawned on me that I was more concerned about being right than I was about the happiness of my marriage and my husband. It felt like someone slapped me upside the head and my stomach fell from beneath me. It was stunned. What's more, I stopped. I didn't need to be right any more. It it unimportant. I stopped pushing up against him and instead went along with him. It's difficult to just let go, but once one does, the difference is amazing. <br />Stingrayhttp://www.verusconditio.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-65010846482675837602013-02-16T11:42:35.596-06:002013-02-16T11:42:35.596-06:00Great post.
From a man's perspective: the adv...Great post.<br /><br />From a man's perspective: the advice to "be nice" is something that women, not men, should be told. <br /><br />A pleasant disposition in a woman never, ever fails to extract the very best from her man. Be nice to him. Be pleasant, feminine. Be respectful. Request. Do not demand. Present things to us. Do not smack us in the face with them. Submit. If you're not submitting, you're resisting. <br /><br />And smile. Yes, please smile. Or at least don't scowl.<br /><br />And by all means, feel your feelings. But recognize the following:<br /><br />1. Your feelings are real, but they are not the truth. <br /><br />2. It is not productive or helpful to make decisions based on your feelings. <br /><br />3. Your emotions do not require a response from your husband. Neither he nor anyone else needs to analyze, address, figure out, repair, or change anything based on your feelings. If you need to feel it, then feel whatever the hell you need to feel. That does not mean that HE has to feel it or fix it. When you're done feeling it, we'll do what needs done.<br /><br />deti Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-50167928763176686962013-02-15T18:51:04.240-06:002013-02-15T18:51:04.240-06:00"It is so important ladies that our commitmen..."It is so important ladies that our commitment be made independent of feelings. It must be out of obedience to God. Storms will arise, feelings will change."<br /><br />I know far too many women who need to take this to heart. Myself included most days...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01116673919482572836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-73576609616939773332013-02-15T17:54:19.454-06:002013-02-15T17:54:19.454-06:00Here's David J's comment on The Woman and ...Here's David J's comment on The Woman and the Dragon: <br /><br /><i>...After years of such rebellion, and with the blessing of two Christian counselors, I took steps to separate in hopes of just such an awakening. Her response was to blow up the 29-year and 4-child marriage, filing for and eventually obtaining a divorce.</i><br /><br />And, in response to a woman who loves her husband, who can't fathom blowing up their marriage, David J says: <br /><br /><i>So, right now, your husband and your marriage are in good shape. But what about if/when you’re no longer “totally into him” and you CAN imagine living without him because you no longer love him and wish him well? It will still be true that if you pull the trigger you’ll destroy yourself (and him), but what will keep you from doing so given the change in your feelings? As things stand, it won’t be the law, and (in the vast majority of cases) it won’t be the church or your female friends. This is the conundrum faced by all Christian men (including your husband) whether they realize it or not. I didn’t realize it until the last 2 years of my marriage — she was from a Christian home, was an active Christian before we met at a conservative Christian college, said all the right things about submission, was a virgin, etc. But eventually her feelings trumped the Bible, her respect became (or perhaps always had been) conditional and deteriorated to contempt, her contempt necessarily meant (to her) that I hadn’t loved her as Christ loved the church, and therefore (she believed) she was entitled to a divorce. Until those last two years, I would not have believed she would seek a divorce for non-biblical reasons, given her lifelong testimony and the Christian/biblical culture in which we were immersed. But she did. Will you be different? How do you know? How does your husband know?</i><br /><br />http://thewomanandthedragon.wordpress.com/2013/02/13/on-lamenting-distrust-between-christian-husbands-and-wives/#comment-16371<br /><br />It is so important ladies that our commitment be made independent of feelings. It must be out of obedience to God. Storms will arise, feelings will change. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-75118925786919297552013-02-15T16:21:52.754-06:002013-02-15T16:21:52.754-06:00It is much like becoming a Christian. It is very s...It is much like becoming a Christian. It is very simple. It's a decision. It is faith. It is a vow. And, it is HUGE!<br /><br />A rebellious Christian woman is still a Christian. The decision is to obey God's command for biblical marriage by submitting to your husband as unto the Lord (doing so out of obedience to God, not out of an estimate of your husband's worthiness). It is very simple. That does not mean it was easy. It is surrender. It is vulnerability. <br /><br />RLB and I were just talking and he asked is this what it took for me (what I wrote above). I told him that once I surrendered to God and prayed for him to transform my heart, He has overwhelmed my heart. It was a decision...a very simple decision. It was an act of faith and trust in the Lord that He will make right what had been so wrong in my heart. <br /><br />Read Psalm 23. Pray on those words. Read it again. I'll pray for you as well. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-74780838104582349392013-02-15T16:08:40.130-06:002013-02-15T16:08:40.130-06:00I just caught up on your blog (from the beginning)...I just caught up on your blog (from the beginning) yesterday, and have been following vicariously through my husband on VD, Alpha Game, and all the rest. It's been.... interesting reading :) This just seems to be a concept harder to absorb into my thick head. I haven't read Sunshine Mary's blog yet, but my husband has been mentioning her a lot lately, along with your blog. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-86064761051113572532013-02-15T16:01:43.795-06:002013-02-15T16:01:43.795-06:00I really hope you all are taking the time to read ...I really hope you all are taking the time to read the blogs RLB has listed on the right. Sunshine Mary continues to have excellent conversations going on with her posts. Ladies, it is so worth the read! <br /><br />These comments from donalgraeme are so true for men. God bless these men that pour out their hearts for us to hear: <br /><br /><i>Why would any sane man go forth an slay a dragon, only to be reviled for it? Only to find that the woman he seeks to “rescue” has been “rescued” many times before? Only to find that the woman refuses to respect him for what he does, but instead feels entitled to his service without recompense?</i><br /><br /><i>On the flip side, there is nothing that I would not do for a good woman.<br /><br />For a good woman I would walk a thousand miles barefoot through sharp needles and jagged stones.<br /><br />For a good woman I would endure blistering heat and soul-chilling cold.<br /><br />For a good woman I would suffer torture and humiliation.<br /><br />For a good woman I would give up all my wealth and the trappings of this world.<br /><br />For a good woman I would go forth to slay a dragon, though it would likely be my end.<br /><br />I would storm the very gates of Hell itself, and do battle with the Evil One, just to win the heart of a woman who was beautiful and chaste and God-fearing.<br /><br />I have yet to find such a woman.</i><br /><br />http://thewomanandthedragon.wordpress.com/2013/02/15/can-marriages-with-no-physical-attraction-be-saved-should-they-be/#comment-16624<br />SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-38715645573255006282013-02-15T16:00:09.494-06:002013-02-15T16:00:09.494-06:00Looks like I've got homework this weekend :)Looks like I've got homework this weekend :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com