tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post7175085678741860293..comments2023-05-14T06:20:54.641-05:00Comments on Sarah's Daughter: Do you need her help? SarahsDaughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-47306058776729515142013-11-12T01:13:57.919-06:002013-11-12T01:13:57.919-06:00Carlotta,
Without Bodycrimes clarifying, I'm ...Carlotta, <br />Without Bodycrimes clarifying, I'm left to believe this wasn't a divorce situation. She states the woman "broke up her relationship" - she doesn't say she divorced him. <br /><br />I don't understand what you're reading into it. <br /><br />I extend this to marriage as a lesson in what, in my experience, has maintained attraction in our marriage. I do not excuse divorce for any reason. I do, however, fully support men and women selecting their spouses (and subsequently rejecting prospective spouses) based on what will keep their attraction high. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-18080150603842458432013-11-11T15:02:55.800-06:002013-11-11T15:02:55.800-06:00The example you cited is a sad one. It isnt that h...The example you cited is a sad one. It isnt that he didnt need her or wasnt a good husband. She just didn't like how he needed her and would not submit her fantasy to the reality.<br /><br />Like I said, ridiculous excuse to divorce unless she is cheating. Carlottanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-22733636899062915392013-11-07T23:23:40.411-06:002013-11-07T23:23:40.411-06:00Thank you Hannah, I appreciate that.
We were jus...Thank you Hannah, I appreciate that. <br /><br />We were just watching a show with our children tonight that illustrated perfectly the lie that feminism has women believe - that it is value and worth that they'll achieve when they place their focus on things outside of their husbands and family. It's seems an endless search. And sadly it usually means their help is given to those who are not vested in them, do not love them, do not cherish them and do not really need <i>them</i>. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-4881079534120999762013-11-07T05:54:49.710-06:002013-11-07T05:54:49.710-06:00Reposting my original comment:
Hi Sarah's Dau...Reposting my original comment:<br /><br />Hi Sarah's Daughter, good post :)<br /><br />Your husband's commanding style sounds very similar to my husband... he tells me that he needs me to do things for him rather than asking if I can, and I guess that makes me feel like I am important to him. (read: Worthy) <br />I agree with Sign's thought about women wanting to feel like they are helpful... one of feminism's carrots was to draw females away from the home seeking their 'true value' everywhere else.<br />Wanting to be necessary is one of the core reasons I think women desire to please men in general.<br /><br />I enjoy reading many of your thoughts around the place Sarah's Daughter. You're a sharp lady and it would appear that your husband has a great asset with you by his side.<br /><br />May the Lord continue to bless you and your household. <br /><br />HannahHannahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-81690137636829038052013-11-05T13:17:14.357-06:002013-11-05T13:17:14.357-06:00rlb,
I was thinking about donal's insight on ...rlb,<br /><br />I was thinking about donal's insight on "investing" by "obeying". I admit I have no idea how this applies to you and SD in particular, so I have no direct comment on that aspect. <br /><br />However, I find it to be a useful word picture. Jesus said, "where your treasure is there your hart will be also". Once you are married, decisions can be broken down into either doing what you want or doing what the other person wants. (the decision of doing what is "best" isn't really germane here) For a married person acts of obedience/deference/service are a form of "treasure" if you will. Choosing to "invest" that obedience into a husband's requests binds a wife's hart to him.<br /><br />At some point obedience, love, respect, attraction and desire become intertwined and indistinguishable. The women who has worked all day to take care of her home for the benefit of her husband and consequently can think of nothing better than his coming home so she can receive pleasure by being intimately his, by pleasuring him, is receiving dividends on her investment. Of course by pleasuring him she is also investing in her marriage. If done correctly, a marriage is a life long process of investing treasure and receiving treasure in return, which is then reinvested again.<br /><br />I agree that the captain and first mate analogy is the most direct and the easiest to understand. Everyone knows their role and what is expected of them. It works. The "investment" analogy also works as a method of understanding motivation and reward. Res Ipsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16433725505878267643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-53722227831637240142013-11-05T02:06:26.035-06:002013-11-05T02:06:26.035-06:00I like a lot of what you said, however I think you...I like a lot of what you said, however I think you are projecting on women. I think your investing idea is a way for men to understand the way women act. It isn't a man's way of thinking though. SD's desire and obedience to my commands are very different from a man's perspective on investment. It is much closer to the command/military structure. She doesn't question it, nor does she want to question it. The reason she doesn't question it has to do with God's commands and the fruit of submission. redlegbenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06695513683497743566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-61845548706309733272013-11-04T18:47:00.648-06:002013-11-04T18:47:00.648-06:00Before I begin, I want to repeat that it takes a L...Before I begin, I want to repeat that it takes a LOT of money for it to trigger attraction. I mean a lot. I've actually considered abolishing the whole Money "vector" and folding it entirely into Status. <br /><br /><i><br />**This might be the most important part of maintaining high attraction - assertiveness. I never got the impression I was being asked something I could (or wanted to) say "no" to, it wasn't a question, it was a statement, "I need you to..." There was nothing to debate, nothing to rebel against, it was a matter of fact. What happened in my brain was he needs me. </i><br /><br />This is key, I think. RLB is <b>commanding</b> you. He is exercising Masculine Power. And when you carry out his command, when you help him, you are <i>investing</i> in him. it is natural for us to care about our investments, so when you invest in a man, you care about him more. <br /><br />This explains the whole concept of Laurence Nightengale "nurse" attraction- a woman invests so much in a man she can't help but care about him. When the man maintains his "frame", his inner strength, during this process it only heightens the effect. I think this is why you haven't lost your attraction to RLB despite his health problems, SD.<br /><br />I find it interesting that the Greek word used to indicate submission in the NT is the same word applied in a military context for a solider following orders. What you describe here SD is you acting as your husband's subordinate, his "First Officer", carrying out his orders as needed. I don't think this is a coincidence. Women are commanded to follow this in marriage because it is what they are designed to do, to be a man's helpmate, his First Officer. The fact that you find contentment in it only goes to show that you are doing what you were meant to do. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-35236227050695343442013-11-04T13:33:39.329-06:002013-11-04T13:33:39.329-06:00Not only does this sum up neatly why women flip ou...<i>Not only does this sum up neatly why women flip out so massively over a war slogan of "who needs women?"</i><br /><br />Yes, that is the response those who tout that war slogan relish in. They are literally tickled when we over react. It serves us right, they'll say. That's why they don't silently go their own way. It's a passive aggressive attempt to get a society of women back in line. It works, however, it doesn't work <i>for</i> those who tout the slogan. It works for the men who would never give a moments thought to speaking aloud such a silly slogan - "Of course I don't <i>need</i> her, but if I've got her, it only makes sense for her to help me in my mission. Turns out she's good at it and stays attracted to me while helping me and in turn I get all of the pleasant advantages of marriage. <br /><br />Why stop the guys who tout the slogan? Just cash in on it. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-67913835732717783582013-11-04T13:10:12.709-06:002013-11-04T13:10:12.709-06:00...Gosh, now that I've thought about it for a ......Gosh, now that I've thought about it for a second, I've realized that "help husband" is exactly what the Church is designed to do.<br /><br />I'm going to go contemplate this.Sigynhttp://hislordshipsdomain.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-60358231593265432932013-11-04T13:06:08.699-06:002013-11-04T13:06:08.699-06:00Not only does this sum up neatly why women flip ou...Not only does this sum up neatly why women flip out so massively over a war slogan of "who needs women?", but possibly sums up one (secondary) lure of feminism. Remember that they told us we were useless as "only housewives" and not serving any purpose, and we should be "productive" and go us forth to labor in the fields and offices in order to really "help".<br /><br />Call a woman "useless" and you take away her worth. All we have to offer, in the end, is our help.<br /><br />Sometimes, the only thing that keeps me going in my current situation is knowing that I am helping His Lordship, even when I lose sight of the Glorious Purpose. It should be Jesus, I know, but I am only human. (Well, mostly.)Sigynhttp://hislordshipsdomain.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com