tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post7849807610850205358..comments2023-05-14T06:20:54.641-05:00Comments on Sarah's Daughter: I've got nothing for himSarahsDaughterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-14375482794559941802013-10-08T08:44:27.244-05:002013-10-08T08:44:27.244-05:00Great post -- I also see the truth that men and wo...Great post -- I also see the truth that men and women cannot be friends. Men absolutely need other men for counsel as iron sharpens iron. Women have nothing to offer them in terms of being a man. I'll posit that, in my experience, it seems guys who are adrift, have no faith, or look to a woman for counsel don't have a good relationship (or any relationship, for that matter) with their own fathers, so they don't relate well to the Heavenly Father.<br />AmandaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-47479102932788771782013-10-07T09:46:24.582-05:002013-10-07T09:46:24.582-05:00My Girl !My Girl !Carlottanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-11679265320982284442013-10-06T21:15:32.711-05:002013-10-06T21:15:32.711-05:00Truth!
I have and will continue to pray for him. ...Truth! <br />I have and will continue to pray for him. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-90606356924069996822013-10-06T21:04:39.959-05:002013-10-06T21:04:39.959-05:00Now I should have added...pray. The prayers of sai...Now I should have added...pray. The prayers of saints are mighty. Everytime I run up against someone like this I know I must pray. What is praying 50 years if it keeps someone from hell?<br /><br />You may be the only one and that could be enough. Nothing is impossible with God. Remember your soul wasnt saved by argument or persuasion but by grace and the awakening of the Holy Spirit. Someone prayed for you!Carlottanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-10759058151693605292013-10-05T22:49:47.747-05:002013-10-05T22:49:47.747-05:00SSM can teach a young bride how to be a fantastic ...<i>SSM can teach a young bride how to be a fantastic wife, and she does a phenomenal job with that. She can not, however, help single men. And she doesn’t want to hurt them.</i><br /><br />Bingo. <br /><br />My intentions have always been to be kind to those who have been hurt. Unfortunately, you see what the result of that has been.<br /><br />Only once over the course of my blog has my husband stepped in and taken over counseling a single man by email, and he only did so because he believed this man genuinely wanted to try to fix his situation. sunshinemaryhttp://sunshinemaryandthedragon.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-90545821264402827752013-10-03T02:36:29.187-05:002013-10-03T02:36:29.187-05:00I don't have issue with the fact that SD had t...I don't have issue with the fact that SD had to get upset with what happened. She knows this. I have been very in control over what discussions would occur. In particular, I enjoy allowing my family members to experience the truth of people and their ugly. It isn't a trick or game. It is a controlled way to shed light on the values and beliefs I hold to be true.<br /><br />SD's frustration and post have to do with this light revealing moment. I've said before that non-family members are experiments to me. They always will be. This attitude helps me to develop personally, as much as my family members do. Communicating the truths I know in life is difficult to do without being authoritative. I find the authoritative to be good, but the "you see Timmy" moments following those authoritative diatribes are more influential. <br /><br />I'm not going to pretend I'm all-knowing. However, I do understand some things better than my wife and children. As a result, I will allow certain types of relationships/dialogues to happen in order to better make my "you see Timmy" point. By doing this, I find myself more reflective as well.<br /><br />For example, my son frustrates me with his immediate, "No!" reaction to things he isn't comfortable with. It's a very natural response for a young man. He doesn't want to be viewed as wimpy or weak. I have similar moments all the time. Being old, I know how to hold my tongue long enough to say the appropriate thing. It's not that I don't have a disgust for what was said; it's that I know how to win the debate. It might be rhetorical in nature; it might be dialectic. I pause long enough to decipher the correct response. I taught RLB Jr this tonight. He sleeps well.redlegbenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06695513683497743566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-56560298803572292952013-10-02T23:06:40.887-05:002013-10-02T23:06:40.887-05:00Deti, you can find the e-mail at the bottom of thi...Deti, you can find the e-mail at the bottom of this site. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-28116966519053812482013-10-02T10:37:06.151-05:002013-10-02T10:37:06.151-05:00Dammit.
do you have an email address, SD? If it...Dammit. <br /><br />do you have an email address, SD? If it's public, please post it. <br /><br />detiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-79563177863401615402013-10-02T10:36:17.965-05:002013-10-02T10:36:17.965-05:00SD:
Good post. donal is right that there are so...SD:<br /><br />Good post. donal is right that there are some who don't want to be helped. Even if he wanted help, you couldn't be the one to help him. <br /><br />Carlotta is right that at bottom, men and women really can't truly be friends. Doesn't work for lots of reasons. <br /><br />Please send me an email at the email address used to post this comment. <br /><br />RLB, permission to correspond with your wife, please; and SD you can show RLB any correspondence we have. <br /><br />detiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-21268843115023017652013-10-02T01:02:57.313-05:002013-10-02T01:02:57.313-05:00I've long held that mindset as well, Carlotta....I've long held that mindset as well, Carlotta. It had been, for years, a relationship between the three of us and RLB has had many conversations with him. <br /><br />I've heard it said that after a time of rebellion and unrepentance God hands you over to your own iniquities. I honestly believe that is what has happened with this young man. It couldn't grieve my heart more. In being oldish like you ;) I've been able to witness the progression of lives lived indulging in sin and decadence. But for the grace of God there go I... And ohhh, I'm such a momma hen that aches when I come to understand I'm powerless to stop it. And then I beg to understand why... why was I able to be reached when another is unreachable....uhhhh, bleh! SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-70117572712190776682013-10-02T00:36:57.781-05:002013-10-02T00:36:57.781-05:00@Sigyn,
Also, Priscilla worked with her husband A...@Sigyn, <br /><i>Also, Priscilla worked with her husband Aquila. If you are/were working with RLB (and accepting his authority) on this guy, it's not you who's at fault here.</i><br /><br />I want to thank you for saying this. I've been thinking about it since I read it earlier. <br /><br />Two days before my last exchange with this man he and RLB had an exchange that clearly indicated it was time to let go of the hope I had for him. I am actually very at fault for my last exchange with him. I'm not new, it was clear this man lacked respect for my husband and would not be relenting in his sophomoric and/or offensive challenges to my every post. <br /><br />I'm very keen to this online with people I don't know. When it is clear a blog commenter is choosing to engage with me but expresses contempt for my husband, I no longer "talk" with that commenter. But, because I know this young man personally, I gave him leeway that should not have been granted after the previous exchange he had with RLB. <br /><br />donalgraeme, you're right. I think what I'm honing in on is the ability to discern when the right time is to shake the dust off.<br /><br />With the man I know personally, I was two days late. But I am very grateful for the lesson. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-86912694579002775262013-10-01T21:48:45.010-05:002013-10-01T21:48:45.010-05:00You cannot help someone who doesn't want to be...You cannot help someone who doesn't want to be helped. This young man's behavior demonstrated that he didn't want to be helped. He wanted attention, and more specifically, the sympathy of being a victim. <br /><br />You did your best. There is nothing else to do but shake the dust off your feet and move on. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-37284573838979374172013-10-01T14:26:55.385-05:002013-10-01T14:26:55.385-05:00I am of the mind that women and men cannot be frie...I am of the mind that women and men cannot be friends. I am almost 40 and I have seen it too many times. He can not flirt with you so he attempts to get your attention in this manner. If he was interested in your faith, you could have said "Great, speak to my Husband." He isn't interested in your faith, but he is interested in having your attention. My Husband and I have had this happen. Often the person of the opposite sex finds something you are good at or interested in and just wants to chat with you about it. Then it doesn't stop. We chat with people as a couple or not at all. If someone was openly antagonistic of my religion like this I cut them off. Clearly what can darkness have to do with light. He isn't ignorant. He has made his choice. Now he is using his access to you to torment a child of God. You did the right thing.Carlottanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-657539816425698502013-10-01T07:57:10.738-05:002013-10-01T07:57:10.738-05:00RLB and I have been discussing this overall point ...RLB and I have been discussing this overall point of my post with several different single men/married Christian women in mind. <br /><br />What ended up happening with this guy in particular, after RLB read all of his latest comments is he said to me, "Have you had enough of this yet?" Which translated to me that he had had enough. I wrote the guy an email explaining just that, sent my best wishes and "unfriended" him. <br /><br />Like I said, though, this isn't just about this guy. SarahsDaughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11070845597474113030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-63879032960360561182013-10-01T07:10:37.811-05:002013-10-01T07:10:37.811-05:00SD, I have to second this. Your offended reaction...SD, I have to second this. Your offended reaction to his offensive statements--in YOUR FB space--is not solipsistic or even irrational. He knows very well he's being offensive. The proper response is, in fact, to remind him that he is being disrespectful, not to pretend it's not happening or to berate yourself for taking personally what's meant personally. Either he will pitch a baby-fit and go away, or he will back down and mend his manners.<br /><br />Also, Priscilla worked with her husband Aquila. If you are/were working with RLB (and accepting his authority) on this guy, it's not you who's at fault here.Sigynhttp://hislordshipsdomain.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3115260514178140021.post-55773508949452841942013-09-30T20:43:02.644-05:002013-09-30T20:43:02.644-05:00I would argue your current situation with this &qu...I would argue your current situation with this "friend" is teaching you that "being nice" with some people just doesn't work. He's not really interested in hearing what you have to say, he's not responding to your message, and is in essence dropping a load on your FB wall with his language. It's one thing to debate someone on a FB comment, it's quite another to call another person's beliefs "bullshit". <br /><br />This guy needs to learn respect, or you need to give him the freedom to express his viewpoints elsewhere. This means you need to draw some boundaries on what you'll put up with from someone, tell him what those boundaries are if you're to remain friends, and then enforce them. If he really values you as a friend instead of a convenient place to vent his angst, he'll abide by your boundaries. If not, then it's time to let him play elsewhere until he's willing to abide by the rules of your playground. <br /><br />And - in doing this - you'll be offering to this single guy what it's like to interact with a married woman who cares enough not to put up with his crap. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com