As my thirteen-year-old daughter and I drove home, this was the topic of our conversation. She has been researching the effect of abortion on a woman's future fertility. This led to a discussion of common things young women do that have long term negative consequences in their lives.
We have talked extensively to our children about time preferences and point out the observable consequences to a high time preference mentality. We demonstrate delayed gratification for them and integrate instruction on low time preference thinking into our discussions as often as possible.
I asked my daughter to visualize herself as an eighty-year-old woman and asked if she could imagine what would be most important to her. She determined that she wouldn't want to be alone. We then discussed what she could do to help ensure that.
Having lived around the country and the world as a child of a Soldier, she is well aware that friends come and go. She has known the bond that can form between friends and the fragility of that bond. There is nothing biblical to hold that bond in place.
In this modern time of self determination and individualism, there is a pull for young women like my daughter to do anything but think of her eighty-year-old self in her decision making process. This isn't new, by any means, and it seems it should be obvious and not necessary to discuss with her. I'm not going to take that chance, though.
I told her to think about where her father and I are in life. We are both over the age of forty, and past (we think) the age of having more children. Yet most of our life is ahead of us.
The reality of the life that is to come for us has many challenges, some of which we've already encountered. There will be death; our parents, our siblings, other relatives, each other. There will be illness. There will come that day when our bodies will be done doing the work we do today. The things that keep us busy day after day right now will subside.
There will be a lot of time.
Today we consider that abundance of time in almost every decision we make and are passing that thought process on to our children.
In our conversation, my daughter told me that what she can do to help ensure she is not alone in her elderly years is; marry young, adhere to biblical instruction for marriage, and have children.
She is growing in wisdom which is great to see. She still is very much a thirteen-year-old girl though and is trying hard to understand that not going to the upcoming One Direction concert will not, actually, be the end of the world.