"...once you've seen one woman naked, you...pretty much wanna see the rest of 'em naked." - Ron WhiteLadies, have you ever thanked your husband for denying the lusts of his flesh? Have you ever given thought to the struggle and overcoming he has gone through to commit himself to a monogamous relationship with you? Or, do you believe it is entitled to you? That no gratitude or appreciation is necessary because it is what he was supposed to do?
If you believe your husband has never struggled with lust, you are in denial. If he has not shared this with you, it is likely he doesn't trust you with the truth of his greatest internal conflict and the most powerful of man's desires. He knows the strife it causes you and the understanding you lack. He has shamed himself enough, he's not interested in receiving shame and belittling from you. He doesn't want to hurt you so he'll battle this one on his own.
From the onset of puberty and often earlier than that, boys come to understand their polygamist nature. Their thoughts become consumed with lust. Most keep quiet about it. Often they internalize it with self loathing and disgust. They keep it "in the closet" and fight with it there. When they lose the battle and give in to the flesh they are alone as their minds convict them of their sin.
Men who hope marriage will help alleviate the desires of their flesh are discouraged when even that does not work. They cry out to God, "why do I still have lustful thoughts for the women I see, I'm married now, how can this be?"
Napoleon Hill writes in his book, Think and Grow Rich, of sex transmutation - "the switching of the mind from thoughts of physical expression, to thoughts of some other nature." Men have learned they can transmute their sexual energy into production. It is a conscientious exercise that needs great attention and application for mastery. Wives can be powerful allies to their husbands when they support this mission.
You can support your husband in this by keeping him well sexed. Optimally twice a week. The build up of sexual energy in a man begins to peak three to five days after release. The hope for this availability of sex is a huge drive for men to enter into marriage. There are many areas women can help with the success of their husbands and therefore their families. This is the most important one.
I'm going to switch gears here and discuss a perspective that our society and many of our churches are denying our heterosexual men. We've been bombarded with the message of acceptance of homosexual sex. Homosexuals are born this way. How dare we believe the words of the Bible that call this sin?
Well, we do. Too bad. Get over it.
Take a look at what the Bible has to say about the lusts of the flesh of heterosexual men:
Do not let your heart turn to her way or stray into her paths. Many are the victims she has brought down; her slain are a mighty throng. Her house is a highway to the grave, leading down to the chambers of death. - Proverbs 7:25-27
The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God. - Galatians 5:19-21
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell. - Matthew 5:27-30
“You shall not commit adultery. - Exodus 20:14
Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. - Hebrews 13:4
For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. - 1 John 2:16
There are more...many, many more. Heterosexual men have been told by society, churches, the Word of God, their parents, the media etc. that their nature, the very nature they were born with is sinful. They are told this natural inclination is destructive to society. That it harms the nuclear family and the sanctity of marriage. The fact that polygamy is not legal in the U.S. and that the majority of men will marry and live monogamously with their wives is indicative of the honor and submission heterosexual men have towards the Word of God and/or their contribution to a successful society. Even when men held the power, they did not seek legalization and normalization of the nature bred within them.
So, yes, God addresses homosexuality in the Bible. As he addresses all sin. The struggle that remains is with God, not with Christians that adhere to Biblical instruction of successful lives. Men who pursue the overcoming of the lust within their flesh define themselves by their journey and victories along the way, not by their sin.