Thursday, November 8, 2012

Don't roll your eyes*

Try this:

For one week, control the urge to roll your eyes when your husband speaks.

Simple enough, isn't it? I can't imagine how it would hurt you. It won't take anything from you.

No matter what he says, no matter the context, even if he's talking about something/someone else that has nothing to do with you, your marriage etc., pay attention to your eyes as he speaks. Close them if the urge is too great. Open them wide if that helps. Just don't roll them. Practice in the mirror.

If you are not married, do this with your boyfriend, father, or brother.

I don't suggest this exercise because I want to rid eye rolling all together. There are many times that an eye roll along with laughter are completely innocuous to your husband. However, the times that are of consequence are more important than you'll ever understand.

Stop all eye rolls for a week. Okay, a day to start with. The rest of today. Really, for the next hour, pay attention to your eyes. When you fail this exercise, and you will, think cognitively about  your attitude behind the eye roll. And, consider what your eye roll said/would have said, non-verbally, to your husband.

Guys, if you are comfortable with it, go ahead and comment about what is non-verbally spoken to you each time you see an eye roll from your wife that is of significance to you. 


*Think of the Kix song, replacing "Close" with "Roll" - But don't think if it too much, my goodness what a depressing song.

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