“Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before
pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you."
Losers are going to lose. It's what keeps their delusional world together. Wasting time on them is just that...wasting time. They don't want solutions. They want company in their misery. Succeeding is hard. Anyone who has accomplished anything in life knows they paid a price for it. You didn't accomplish what you did by making excuses.
Those of us who have succeeded in life turn a certain age and want to dispense knowledge. We can't fall for the loser that has tried everything and still can't succeed. They waste our time and they will turn on us. I'm not saying you shouldn't help those who are willing. The willing are a very different type than the excuse-a-plenty loser. I have been drawn in by these losers in the past. It is an ugly situation. It is Satan playing on your weaker sympathies.
"So, every healthy tree bears good fruit, but the diseased tree bears bad fruit."