Sometime around December of last year, SD started chastising me for being unkempt. She would tell me that I need to shave or shower more often. When I started to do that, she still complained. It became apparent to me that she didn't like me wearing sweatpants.
I was wearing sweatpants because they are comfortable. I have back and GI issues that make constriction around the abdomen painful. During the summer, I wear basketball shorts. They are also very comfortable for such conditions. There were no complaints during short wearing season. My youngest daughter recently pointed this out to SD. She asked why SD didn't complain about me wearing shorts all the time. SD didn't really have a rational answer to justify that over the sweatpants controversy of our last winter. I still shave my beard and head on the same schedule I did during the winter. I still shower and use deodorant/cologne as often as I did in winter. The difference is what I wear on my bottom half.
Over time I have discussed this issue with SD and realized she has an irrational connection between sweatpants and decay/dying. Her mother was in sweatpants constantly during the final months of her life. It is not worth trying to change this mental image in a wife's head over buying pants.
My GI issues cause my abdomen to bloat after eating. Thus, my old pants caused pain because they weren't bought with this issue in mind. The same issue applied dealing with my lower back issue. I also hate shopping, so buying new pants was low on my priority list. Big mistake. None of my personal issues constituted a hill to die on for a husband.
I know this issue isn't unique to me. There are a plethora of these issues. Long hair, short hair, beards, nose hair, ear hair, toilet seat, wife beater shirt, open mouth chewing, dog kissing, ... the list goes on. Idiosyncrasies/pet peeves are far and wide. The point is that these issues aren't irreconcilable differences. It may take time to dissolve these deep seated emotional connections. Why would you want to even address such issues? Because sometimes...I like to wear my Packers sweatpants on Sunday. But, just buy the pants that fit.