I am not a Christian and I am a feminist so the religious points that have been made are largely lost on me. That being said I would like to tell you a little of my story.
I was raised by my mother to be a feminist and without the
expectation that I would marry. Imagine my surprise when I fell in love
and got married. I swore that my marriage would not change me but, it
My husband became the center of my life. It was not something he
asked of me, nor was it a condition of our marriage, it just happened.
I already considered him the love of my life and my best friend,
that is why I decided to marry. I did not think our relationship would
get better with time but, it did. When my friends, both male and female,
expressed displeasure with his ‘influence’ over me, I pointed out that
my relationship was my choice and if they didn’t like it, our friendship
could end. The vast majority chose to do just that. It was honestly a
relief, I was tired of their criticism of my husband’s behavior and our
I was happily married for 5 years until my husband’s death. I
never cheated on him. I never contemplated divorce (I am not sure what
frivorce means, frivolous divorce?) I preferred to work from home (long
I also preferred my husband to deal with the outside world while I
dealt with the day to day within our home. I was still a feminist,
albeit one that had made a very different choice than most.
Yes I did have partners before him. How many is none of your
business. I can say with all honestly that he was ‘it’ for me. Once we
were together, he was the only man I wanted and in many ways the only
man I could even see.
So, yeah, it is possible. In fact, it is still a problem. I have
tried dating since his passing and it has been a disaster. I am just not
Good catch. Will keep this widow in my prayers. She is not beyond reach.
" If there is no God, no Jesus Christ, no Holy Spirit, what could possibly be keeping me bonded to my husband? Don’t tell me it’s Truth, in my world what I choose to be truth is truth."It's called biology.
Congratulations, on your transition from bitter self-hating feminist to loving and happy woman, Congrats and rock on.