Monday evening I begin to have an exchange with commenter Disillusioned (yes, that's the moniker she chose) over at Alpha Game. This exchange continues sporadically until Wednesday morning.
Tuesday, Keoni posts his blog Soluble Synergy which motivates me to begin the process of changing our diet in this house. RLB and I talk about it. I told him that I don't want to implement anything until I know he and I are on the same page. I knew there would be some resistance from our kids because they haven't yet learned all the things I'm learning and because "mean old mom is taking away yummy food and making us eat weird things."
I get the go ahead from RLB, he's noticed a substantial change in his gut health by eating primarily proteins and fats and is in support of restricting the crap food that our kids eat.
In Keoni's post he talks about KerryGold Irish butter. I looked for it when I was grocery shopping on Wednesday afternoon. I found it and purchased some to try. While we were at the grocery store, I started to explain to my daughters that we are going to be changing our diet gradually but it's starting with limiting the amount of bread that we eat. This isn't a big deal to the little one, she has Celiac disease, if anything this is amusing to her to watch the reaction of her sister to dealing with a restricted diet. Our older daughter however seemed to think I was telling her she was fat. And she was irritated that she wouldn't have bagels available to her at home anymore. She had complaints and voiced them to me.
So I'm already a bit on edge, I suppose, when I was talking to RLB about the butter I found.
He said: "You purchased it?"
I responded as if he said: "What the hell are you thinking, I don't want that!" I had an emotional and irrational reaction to having to deal with resistance to these changes I was making right out of the gates. The VERY FIRST thing I purchase and I'm scolded for it. Fuck it, I quit!
So apparently if I was a rational being, I would have responded with, "Yes, why do you ask?" And then listened.
Later, when I was putting away the groceries RLB comes into the kitchen and says, "Are you done being mad?"
Apparently if I was a rational being I would have said, "Yes." or possibly "No, not quite yet."...
So then today, Thursday, Vox decides to write a post highlighting part of the exchange I had with commenter, Disillusioned, about which he says:
Sarahsdaughter lays down some vital observations concerning female communication and behavior that every man needs to comprehend:Well, how do you like that?
Because I have to thoroughly think through these things, I've come to understand that my first response is often times 1)emotional and irrational 2)based in fear (not truth) 3)not the same response I might have later after processing information 4)should not be verbalized until said processing of information is done.
We, as women understand and find no issue with the fact that we need to go through these processes in order to figure out what is true - even when it comes to our feelings. We want to talk it through. And then, we have a tendency to arrive at new conclusions without going back and apologizing for emotional outbursts that were based on wrong conclusions.
This is one thing game teaches men (and women) that haven't been privy to understanding women's nature prior. Ignore what women say, and observe what they do. They are not logical nor rational in their first responses to stimuli or information. And they are not prone to taking responsibility for wrong behavior.
Snared! Snared I tell you!
Update: Reading my own words at Alpha Game wasn't enough. Now they're posted on Vox Popoli as well.
RLB, I over reacted in a very irrational way over your question about the butter... I'm sorry.
The funniest thing is, he hasn't a clue any of this has happened but I'm certain he's going to get a big laugh out of it!