I'm glad you posted about breasts. It's been coming up in my husband and I's bed time conversations lately.My response to her was as follows:
He loves my breasts. I am very thankful for this because if he didn't love mine, he'd be loving someone else's. Okay… I was a 32-34A BEFORE the eating healthy started 6 months ago. Now, I'm a 32 AA if that. How can I say this… how can you love something that's not there? I breast fed for 6 months with my first and approximately 4 months with my second. I never exclusively breast fed with either because my body just couldn't keep up. At my largest I think I fit nicely into a 34 A. So, I've grown and shrunk and I notice the slight sag.
I feel very unattractive because the state of my breasts and the only time I get turned on by my husband touching them is during those three days of the month where my hormone (testosterone?) levels are higher and I'm 1/17 as horny as he gets every day vs the other 25 days of the month where I'm 1/50th as horny as he is every day. (thats the next story)
Interjection: I don't know what I would do if either one or both of us didn't know Jesus. The world would probably have me committing suicide.
Can I combat these emotions? I can't change the fact that it doesn't turn me on when he touches my breasts. Its so sad cause they don't even fit in his hand. Anyway, I thought I'd let you hear from someone who has a different reason for not loving her breasts (cause I don't have any!)
Your husband loves your breasts. Would it be acceptable for you to have brown eyes, for your husband to love your brown eyes and for you to continue to wish you had blue eyes. You believe blue eyes are the only eyes that are beautiful. You've allowed your opinion to be projected on those around you to the point where you can not conceive of anyone finding brown eyes beautiful. You live in denial of this truth, that indeed many people, including your husband DO find brown eyes beautiful. Can you see how your continued refusal to accept your own brown eyes as beautiful and believe your husband that they are is a form of coveting.
You are lusting after/yearning for breasts you don't have. So much that you have allowed it to define your self worth. You find it unjust that God created your body as He has. You need to confess this as sin, ask forgiveness and repent of this. Only then can God assist you in overcoming what you are calling emotions (what you are calling emotions are sinful desires).
Our self worth/self love is indicative of our acceptance of God's love. You have put walls up and called yourself unworthy when He has already called you worthy and showed it on the Cross. You will be able to experience the pleasure in God's wonderful gift of sex and intimacy with your husband when you turn away from the lies Satan is telling you. God made it Good. Satan confuses it. You allow Satan to negatively influence the most beautiful aspect of your marriage relationship. You need to let it all go and give it to God. Release yourself to your husband as God has commanded it and allow your husband's complete enjoyment of your body.
Don't fear or anguish over your husbands desire for you. It is a blessing to give him fulfillment of this desire. Yes, he desires sex more than you do (now), that is completely natural. As you begin to release yourself and fully give yourself to him, God can work within your heart to give you a desire for him as well.
Oh, I also thought you'd like to know, many men love small breasts. My brother-in-law is one of them. He is more turned on by small A cups than voluptuous DD cups. He is a single man in his mid 30's and kind of a heathen. Never the less, he can't help his attraction to women with what he so eloquently (sarc) calls "itty bitty titties." :)