Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 1 Peter 3What do you do, as a wife, when your husband is not only not obeying the word, but is hellbent on behavior inconducive to marriage and family? When he appears to be battling demons from his past and is challenging every last bit of your resolve to be the wife God has commanded you to be?
I received the call: "What can I do?"
RLB and I talked, we prayed about it, and the answer was clear:
They were equally yoked when they met and were married. But she received Truth. Now this Truth resides within her. The passage says that he, without a word, may be won by her conduct.
May be won.
Not: "will be won." Not: "is guaranteed to be won." Not: "in three weeks will be won."
For how long must she suffer?
This is a question common to us all when we are walking through difficulty and challenge: "For how long must I suffer?"
We ask if there is hope. Is there hope in my situation?
For her, I know there's hope. Her husband recently talked with her about God. I can imagine this brought the demons out in full force. Just as our Sheppard wants that no sheep be lost, how much more does Satan want to keep the lost from finding their way?
When we read of Paul's transformation and his work that followed, it is clear to see why Satan would want to keep hold of the lost.
Another example is The Machine Gun Preacher:
"Hope is the greatest weapon of all"
The Sam Childers StoryMachine Gun Preacher Sam Childers grew up in the hills of Pennsylvania. His parents were decent, honest people but at an early age Sam started to show a knack for getting into trouble. His father, a former marine, grew fond of saying “Boy, somebody’s gonna kill you one of these days!”
By his early teens Sam was constantly in fist fights, selling hard drugs and sleeping with married women. He continued to slide deeper into a life of violence and crime until he became a Shotgunner – an armed guard for drug dealers. It was during this stage of his life that he met Lynn, a stripper, who would later become his wife.
Sam, haunted by his father’s words, became increasingly concerned that he was going to be killed because of drugs and slowly began to distance himself from his former life. He found a job in construction and prospered despite his continuing drug and alcohol habit. Lynn, meanwhile, returned to the Church she had forsaken as a young adult.
Sam also sought to re-establish his relationship with God and began to live a clean life. Slowly, things began to change for the better. Lynn gave birth to a healthy baby girl and Sam started his own construction business. Little did they know that their greatest challenge was just around the corner.
Vox Day writes in The Limits of Desire:
Sin is sweet. But the pleasure one derives from it is fleeting. I threw myself into the pursuit of pleasure with no little abandon and burned out for the first time by 23, at which point I shaved my head, devoted myself to training martial arts six days per week, quit drinking, and refused to have anything to do with women for six months.
Four years later, I became a Christian. Man cannot live as a lotus eater. The same perspicacity and pursuit of truth that caused players like Roosh and Frost to take the red pill will eventually lead them to seek the deeper truths. They are truth seekers, but there is every likelihood that they will become Truth seekers in time.
And while pleasure does not last, joy does. For some, the emptiness of hedonism cannot be grasped until its depths have been thoroughly explored.
Stickwick adds this:
The Christian faith has codified the wisdom that pleasure-seeking is a zero-sum game; every moment of pleasure in life is purchased with an equal moment of pain. One of the great failures of humanism is the exaltation of the vain attempt to defeat this overarching law of biological existence, which is why depression and other functional disorders are rampant in humanist societies.
There are only two directions in which a libertine can go once he reaches burnout: 1) continuation, followed by mental illness and self-destruction; or 2) the realization that pleasure-seeking is pointless, followed by the adoption of an austere philosophy.
And Markku adds this wisdom:
I don't think it's a one to one relationship between individual moments of joy or sadness, like karmic law. Rather, it's a phenomenon of reverse hysteresis. The soul is trying to calibrate its normal state to the midpoint between highs and lows. If it is put in an environment that provides an unusually large amounts of either, the calibration goes wrong in relation to a normal environment. Returning it there will then bias the normal state in the opposite direction for quite some time.
My dear friend, be strong and courageous. Pray without ceasing. We'll be praying too. You're not alone. And, "after you've done all you can, you just stand":