I got out of the truck and walked around to look at the tire. The tread ripped the wheel well molding right off. The inner tube was still intact. I wondered if I could drive on this being about four miles from home.
I got back in the cab and started calling my road side assistance when I saw a police officer pull up behind me. I didn't complete the call and instead got my driver's license ready and insurance information out of the glove compartment. That's what you're supposed to do, right?
The cop came up to my window but wouldn't take the documents. Instead he said, "let me take a look at the tire." I got out of the truck again and walked around the backside with him.
Cop: "Do you have a spare?"
Cop: "Well, I could change it for you but..."
Me: "No, no, it's too hot out here (it was over 100 degrees), I can just call the service."
Cop: "No, you don't want to wait here for the hour it will take for them to get here, but with the slope of the road, I don't think I'll be able to get the jack to work right. Tell you what, you drive real slow, I'll follow behind you, there is a tire shop right up the road."
Me: "Okay, thank you so much."
I was home 30 minutes later (even with me stopping back where we blew the tire to pick up the tread and the wheel well molding).
Just a really nice cop? Would he offer the same service to a man? There's no way we can know for sure.
Can anyone blame me for appreciating this kind of treatment?
When I told RLB all about it, he joked that I got the helpless blond lady treatment.
One of the things I hate most about the prevalence of feminist women is the natural response from disgusted men. I really like the idea of kindness in a society. If you, as a woman, have ever barked at a man for opening your door, you are an abysmal beast. If you, as a woman, have ever mocked the kindness of a man because of your empowerment and independence, I hate you. Really, I do.
Kindness is good. Bitchiness, entitlement, snobbery and haughtiness is bad. Can we agree?
My children tease me, though I know they've learned great lessons of kindness and responsibility. We were in the grocery store parking lot. I opened my truck door and the wind took hold of it. Bam, right into the car next to us. It left a one inch gouge in their door. I felt terrible. I wrote a note apologizing for what I did, left them my name and phone number and promised to take care of the damage. They never called. And though my truck has at least a dozen dings in its doors from other car doors, I can't not do the right thing in that situation.
I don't desire chivalry without reciprocation. I truly desire mutual kindness.
I have read a lot about the female imperative. Yet still I quest for an alternative response to it. I write endlessly about biblical submission and the responsibilities of a wife in marriage. However, my words are merely a peep amongst the bull horn of entitled female doctrine.
I support, emphatically, the need for men and women to reject feminism. In responding to a comment regarding the purpose of the manosphere I wrote the following:
...what I see the manosphere as is the pursuit of truth. It is the analysis of the general nature of women and how they respond (not what they say, what they do) to stimuli. It is the analysis of the nature of men depending on their socio/sexual proclivities. It is the high scrutiny and replication of what successful men do. It is a response to feminism and an assertion that feminists/cultural Marxists will not control the thoughts and behaviors of free men.Here's where I take issue:
I have daughters. They are being raised in a Christian household with exceptional morals. They value purity and chastity. They see biblical submission role modeled and have an exceptional respect for their father as head of the household.
However, there is no man entitled to them. And that's what I hear a lot of men expressing. These men are looking for the chaste virgin who will naturally submit and fulfill their role as a Christian wife. These men seem to question the ability of the dominant frame the very manosphere they read proclaims they can own. They will go without until the perfect package is presented into their hands. I gotta tell you guys, should you lack an understanding of grace, I can not support my daughters marrying the likes of you. She's fallen. She's a sinner. She's in need of her Savior every last bit as much as you are. She will obey God's commands in marriage but for goodness sake, don't believe for a minute that she will be able to cast off all of her female or sinful nature. And, she very much wants to be attracted to her husband. She will, I promise, overlook the man who rejects a masculine frame, and will choose a man who is exciting to her. It's her nature.
There's nothing wrong with that.
Of course I submit to RLB no matter the circumstance. But he lives with me in an understanding way. He gives me grace. And, he does what is necessary to keep me attracted to him.
I'm interested to know if this is my expression of the female imperative, if it is the tradcon perspective, or if it is an expression of reality.