There is a black dog in our neighborhood that only has three legs that work. It still runs with the other dogs and hunts with them. It is slower than the other dogs. However, this dog manages to have a large range of exploration. We see him up to three miles away. He still has the fourth leg; it just doesn't work. When we first saw him, the girls inclination was pity for him. I didn't really think much about him initially. As time has moved on I have come to respect him. The loss of use of a leg hasn't stopped him from doing what he does.
MWC asked, What do you do on a daily basis to "keep your wagon moving" in your
current physical condition. What do you do to lead your family, your
wife, etc? I have mentioned before that my father has been great inspiration to me. He has gone through many ailments and deterioration of the body. His leadership of our family has been consistent and effective. I look for examples of men carrying on their lives despite the challenges they have. Justin
The Marine is one such example. Sometimes just living is amazing.
I choose not to whine. When I find my mind wandering down the pity party road, I pray and stop it. The more examples you have to rely on; the easier this becomes. Job is great for this. Also great for this is having past success in overcoming adversity. This is the willingness to fail and keep moving. It is what makes sports great for the development of character. If you don't have past success, you have to start developing some. Certain days, my physical problems make taking a shower an accomplishment. I treat it that way too. Small victories along the way lead to better things. My attitude is better when I treat small successes as good progress.
I build on these small victories and it gets me to thinking about the future. This is the leadership families need. SD knows I have a plan for our future. Actually, I have several plans depending on various outcomes of things beyond my control. I identify the things I can control and the ones I can't. I develop contingencies for each scenario. I have always been a worst-case-scenario type of guy. I determine what that would be and then develop a plan for making it better.
A man's attitude about life is essential to leading his family during adversity. Control your mental frame of mind and your leadership comes naturally. A confident man knows he may fail, but he will rise again. There really isn't anything new in this. It's just my example of how to deal with it.