You're only mostly right here in asserting MGTOWs are losers. Again, I still think you're painting with too broad a brush.
Something I think you're missing is that there are a lot of Christian men (churchian men?) who did all the things they were told to do. They got jobs, got educations, developed themselves as providers, kept themselves fit. But they didn't develop adaptive, aggressive, assertive, dominant personalities which would be attractive to women.
Even those men who did all the right things: develop assertive dominant personalities and raise their status -- were dropped into environments in which the available women rejected them. These were men who wanted marriage. These were men who wanted to obey and satisfy their sexual desires through marriage -- the only biblically sanctioned way to do so.
So they were given essentially choices in which they either (1) married physically unattractive, unappealing women; (2) married former carousel riders who aren't attracted to them; or (3) didn't marry. The men in categories (1) and (2) often find themselves in sexless marriages or divorced.
And so many men, including Christian men, are making the cost-benefit analysis, and thus concluding the possible benefit (marriage to a carousel rider and the attendant difficulties) outweights the costs. True, once a man makes that conclusion he shouldn't be bitching and whining and complaining because it's beta. But is this really whining and complaining, or is it sounding an alarm, a warning?
I think you're missing a few things here, and that's what flaws your analysis, and explains the pushback you're getting on these posts.
I don't think men doing what they are told is justification for not following God's commands. I understand that it happened and I sympathize with it because I was a listener of the same BS.
Even those men who did all the right things... This the problem. They didn't do all the right things. They listened to liars. We can say they were too young to discern, but they aren't anymore. Not if they are on a blog whining. Ignorance is not bliss in this marriage market.
You must recognize the conditions on the ground of battle. You hold to your morality (Christianity) and find the way to succeed with that morality being held true.
And so many men, including Christian men, are making the cost-benefit analysis ... This is simply not accurate. These men don't want to adjust to the conditions on the ground. They just whine. Granted my experience is purely anecdotal, but it is wide spread and opposed by no actual scientific studies.
The only way out of this abyss will be a biblical method. The only alternative to Christian men is to be a leader that will mold a woman into the wife he desires. You won't find a perfect woman to mold. They are just as damaged as men are. You can set parameters for what a mold-able wife would look like/respond like. It doesn't change the fact that you, as the man, will need to lead...and not whine like a little bitch.